Pavlina: Life is Not For the Living

First of all, I just wanted everyone (both of you that is) to know that my BLOG is NOT XHTML strict. My MAIN site back at home is XHTML strict. SO this, the site you are now reading, is a messy agglomeration of HTML code. Yuck. I try to clean it up but it is a twisted nightmare. Not worth the battle, I am eyeing up Moveable type anyways. I am about sick to the death of this editor. It still mangles my notepad entries. WTF?

Moms

A question to all the moms. Why do you not censor the comments you say to your daughters? I was on some message board and this woman was all, I can say that to her because she is my daughter but I would never tell anyone else that. Hmmm. Lets analyze this sentiment.

First, a story. I admit that I look like I have been run down by the fashion reject bus. As in the bus that is loaded up with fashion rejects? Yeah, it ran me down. I didn’t do laundry this past weekend, I didn’t want to waer a skirt, and I didn’t want to wear “nice” pants. So I am wearing: Flat-fron khakis hemmed by yours truly and a (very wrinkled) orange/melon cashmere crew-neck sweater. OK. I forgot that sweaters have a tendency to be very wrinkled after sitting, folded up all spring-summer and eary fall, in the closet. I thought the wrinkles would “fall out” but they are still here seven hours later. I walk out to the kitchen this morning and my beloved mother is sitting at the dinig room table reading the morning paper. She is all, “My aren’t we wrinkled this morning?”

TOday is my anniversary of my marriage. Today we are meant to be celebrating the continued love we have for each other and my MOM managed to make me feel like total crap in that one minute. Happy anniversary Pavlina! You look like S***!

I would be willing to admit that my mom is evil (she is) but I know for a fact that ALL moms do crap like this to their daughters and I ask why? Why make the one (or more) person (people) in the world who love you more than anything, be reudced to loathing you for speaking to them like they aren’t worth the crud you scrap of the bottom of your shoe?

Now, moms will say, oh we don’t mean it that way. Oh whatever. If you wouldn’t tell it to your friend or co-worker, why say it to your daughter? The Washington Post had a really good article on this mother-daughter dynamic. In a nutshell it said that mother’s really think they are being helpful and daughters are way too sensitive where their mothers are concerned.

Its true. We take the comments our mothers make off the cuff truly to heart.

So be nice to your daughters, because they really will take your comments literally to heart.

Daughters, just let it roll off your back, your Mom probably didn’t mean it the way you took it.

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